Tuesday, January 31, 2012

I know of nothing in the world that is either nobler or rarer than a devoted friendship.

So in December I said I would write a post about my New Year's resolutions, which is something I have not yet done. I didn't really make them formal, so I probably won't even share them right now, but there is one thing that has been on my mind since coming back from my mission that I will share.

Though sometimes it is hard for me to find friends, I have always felt that I am good at building relationships. I am very dependent; I always want to be with other people and I rely on them to know what to do. During my mission, the type of relationships I made were very, very different, but also very rewarding. Since I've been home the last six months, I have mostly rekindled old friendships and developed a few new ones. It has been hard to know how to act and how to make myself appealing as a person, not as a missionary. For 18 months, almost every conversation starter I used centered about a principle of the gospel of Jesus Christ. All of a sudden, I had no idea how to connect to anyone.

One of my goals for the new year was to focus on my relationships with other people, to figure out how to care about them in a way that would lead to a friendship. So far I have had no real breakthroughs, but I was reading for my Marriage and Family class today (my last chance in college to take this course and prepare for a perhaps-someday marriage) and came across a quote that helped me understand what I've been missing.



"We must understand that there is risk in moving beyond civil relationships. Some people will disappoint or even reject us. Yet we are protected when the motive of our affection was not to manipulate someone into liking us but rather to be their friend. As followers of Christ, we may brighten another’s life, which makes us less susceptible to wounds. And if perchance we are wounded, we heal rapidly."

I don't need to manipulate others into liking me. I don't need to try to be a person they will care about. I just need to be a friend. That way I won't question my motives and feel like a fool, because I'll know that I made the correct decision in trying to "brighten another's life."

Thursday, January 26, 2012

What is the perfect song to roller skate, dance, sing, and work out to?

It would definitely have to be this one.

Let's just say that last night after finishing two pretty tough Body Rock workouts, we (Cambrie, Katie, Jessie and I) forced ourselves to continue dance-jumping until the end of the song. It had just started. It was definitely worth it.

Watch this video. Then watch it again. The third time, try to mimic the moves (believe me, you'll want to). Then, after you've watched it a sufficient number of times, watch this video.

Then you'll understand what my life is like these days.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Kami and Ashley in Wonderland

Today Ashley and I went to an alternate reality where there was a tornado in Salt Lake and there were no people in the bank and I was friends with someone who is not a real person (Ashley). Actually that last part was not part of the alternate reality because she really is not a real person and we really are friends.
Anyway, if you ever want to fall down the rabbit's hole and enter this reality (I don't know why you would), all you have to do is enter the glass building across from Red Lobster. I'll let you figure out what it is.